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Stay at home moms are even more rare than that. The hordes of single moms on welfare must be considered as adding to the 59% and subtracting from the percentage of families who can manage to have the mom stay home. And that's if she actually WANTS to be a SAHM! My wife doesn't. She is educated and wants a career to justify her education, wants to be working outside the home. I do make enough to support us nicely, but she isn't content with that.
I'm actually okay with it though. The kids are in school and the little one in daycare loves going there to "pway wif my fwends." Kids are meant to be in community so I think they're actually getting a social advantage.
The wife will eventualy advance her education and career to the point where our wages are much more equal and then we will have even more options. Which is a better place to be than with a fat aging housewife whose kids are grown and doesn't have a purpose beyond daytime soaps. Those guys get mistresses and divorces. My wife will only get more interesting as time goes by.

Quigley says

I'm actually okay with it though. The kids are in school and the little one in daycare loves going there to "pway wif my fwends." Kids are meant to be in community so I think they're actually getting a social advantage.

The wife will eventualy advance her education and career to the point where our wages are much more equal and then we will have even more options. Which is a better place to be than with a fat aging housewife whose kids are grown and doesn't have a purpose beyond daytime soaps. Those guys get mistresses and divorces. My wife will only get more interesting as time goes by.

There's nothing wrong with that as long as it is understood that the choice of working does not significantly interfere with the relationship towards the partner and the kids and that the job of the partner making more money takes precedence over chores and whatever else emotional support one was used to during the kid-less honeymoon dating phase.

I stumbled onto this website last week. It's anonymous confessionals from parents (99%moms) about their true feelings on parenting, their spouses, and the kids. Shocking stuff! Nothing can be verified of course, but who would admit to this stuff publicly?

http://www.scarymommy.com/confessions/