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When you thank your stepmother for everything she did for you:

Very tempting. Lol

This thread makes my coat hanger scars ache.

What are the Parameters and Dynamics here? Are we taking about Someone's wife treatment of their daughter or son, kids or adults?
For I have different opinions based on the data.

For the adult children I would tell them to go create your own family, and now that you know what it's like to not have both biological parents growing up.
Put your own petty bullshit aside and make it work with your future wife no matter what. I hear so many people talk about the wife they divorced, but then talk about the family they lost. People are so worked up over one member in a family dynamic they are willing to throw it all away over petty differences. Divorce should be harder to get than a building permit on federal land.

If we're talking about a kid or kids being treated like shit by a step mother, then something seriously wrong with the father for putting up with it. But I would also caution, step kids can manipulate that relationship dynamic for sport as well.

There's the legend of the evil Step Mother in every society.

They were once more common than today, due to men outliving women back then (deaths in childbirth/complications of childbirth).

The main issue with stepmothers is they dilute inheritance for the whelps. They are automatically gold diggers and intruders because of the secondary gain issues. Thus, nothing they do can be right, even if they make the man happy. Evil by definition.

My wife has a friend who is older, divorced, and courting with some prospects with money and children. I laughed at her altruism and said the children would put an end to the relationship one way or another, to keep dad on the inheritance provender track. She was steamed that her romantic notions were quashed and I wound up being correct. Her friend so far is zero for two.

Tenpoundbass says

If we're talking about a kid or kids being treated like shit by a step mother, then something seriously wrong with the father for putting up with it. But I would also caution, step kids can manipulate that relationship dynamic for sport as well.

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mell says

Tenpoundbass says

If we're talking about a kid or kids being treated like shit by a step mother, then something seriously wrong with the father for putting up with it. But I would also caution, step kids can manipulate that relationship dynamic for sport as well.

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Been a stepchild...My stepmom in aggregate wasn't too bad as far as parents go, but there was much to be desired and improved on. She did improve a bit...although that might have just been me moving out of the house. However, since both of my parents are deceased I am some what of an advocate for her to collect social security from both my deceased parents since they didn't use it.

I think with biological parents and siblings so much is unconditional. Where as Stephood or adoptive family comes with constant judgement, what ifs and whataboutisms.

I had a friend who was adopted he would moan about his crappy childhood, and how he rebelled at 15 and ran away and pretty much fended for himself since.
As I understood it, he only did so of his own choosing. He seemed to resent his adopted father's discipline. But he described the situation, he was a wayward pissed off 15 year old that needed a good ass kicking. I can't help but think that if it was his natural parents he would have realized the huge favor they did him by riding his ass, rather than letting him grow like a weed. He's over 60 and still carries this axe to grind.
I think he felt like they owed him a free pass because he was adopted. As he told me his life story I just couldn't commiserate with him. I told him, it sounded like he needed a good ass beating. Nobody ever told him that before.

I had a Step kid and now have adopted her three kids she had back to back. I know a lot about the subject.

Where as for sinister step parents that views the kids as an obstacle in the way hell has a special place for them.

As for children of parent that remarries and leaves his wife his legacy, all I can say. Is unfortunately the children don't curl his toes and make the angels sing like she does.
I think a lot of that happens, after a parent raises a kid that is unproductive, and gives off the vibe, that they are just waiting for the old man to croak so all of his shit will be theirs.
It's a way of trying to get the kids to fend for themselves very late in the game. It's not a good thing for either party, but lucky her!

AmericanKulak says

There's the legend of the evil Step Mother in every society.

They were once more common than today, due to men outliving women back then (deaths in childbirth/complications of childbirth).

Yes that seems to be true, how step mother took resources that would have been child's n gave it her own child. Curious if there is list of stories from each culture that I can get from somewhere. I know few Hansel n grettal , 6bth sense, snow white etc. Let me know if there r other

Guessing most stories r for for step mother treating girls badly. Either men just get their own families n don't care about step mother or typical world doesn't care for men's suffering.

I guess culture makes no difference when it comes to step mother who gives priority to her kids first naturally. Everyone knows a small percentage of the population are sociopaths, psychopaths that could be ones stepmom (or any one of your family member) who gives tough time to her victim(s). Remember no matter what you do few things are not in our control particularly with toxic people. If it is hard to fix, just maintain the distance and move on and have a life than stuck and further ruin that otherwise beautiful life.