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Marriage rates have been declining for decades


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2016 Oct 21, 7:44am   17,492 views  54 comments

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1   Dan8267   2016 Oct 21, 7:58am  

https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/2x0m93/at_the_age_when_women_hit_the_wall/

A women's wall is devastating for a women's sexual market value. But a woman hitting the wall is also bittersweet for men. From the sexual market perspective, there is one less attractive woman on the market.

I'm at the age (26) where many of my slightly older female peers are starting to hit the wall. I was a loser in high school and early college. I was really looking forward to some sweet sweet karma. Instead, I found myself reacting to this with the surprising emotion of sadness. Those formerly bangable girls are now gone. The girl you see in the old facebook pictures literally doesn't exist. Motivation for this post came from recent date with one of the high school girls over coffee. I'm hot shit now; fit, well off, and having practiced game for the better part of 5 years. This chick was a HB9 back in the day and a real bitch to me to match. She asked me out over facebook. I said sure, why not. I could use some pussy. When we met up, she was still attractive, about a 7 due but with wear and tear due to her partying. I had a fantastic catharsis moment where we both knew that I am now the more attractive one at the coffee table. But then a very unexpected emotion hit me, sadness. The HB9 of the past does not exist, she is dead. There is one less HB on the market. I know classic argument against this is that there are two 18 year olds where that one came from and I agree. But, what I'm getting at is that the girl of the past is DEAD. She is gone forever. And this is bittersweet.

Be thankful you are men. Your time as a sexual being burns slow and long. A woman's burns bright and extinguishes fast. Men a die a sexual slow death, a sexual life they can extend through hard work. If there is a single male privilege, it is the ability to remain sexually relevant for 40 years.

Of course, that "privilege" comes at the cost of not having power when it's most important, during the mate selection ages of 12 to 30. And yes, those are the mate selection age by our biology. Culture can't change biology.

2   Dan8267   2016 Oct 21, 8:15am  

Also from that page,

Women are like flowers, they bloom gloriously, then rot.

Men are like trees. We just get better and stronger with age, even if our bark gets a little rough and our branches a little gnarly. And we basically stay awesome until we die.

Always remember, marriage is a social construct that protects women as they age. Historically, marriage was a price men paid to enjoy blooming pussy.

Dont be a chump.

Women were far better off before the sexual revolution. Yes, there should be political and economic equality for both genders and all sexual orientations. However, such equality does not require that women engage in massive short-term sexual relations. Such relations, and the family court system, are the precise reasons marriage is dead. There is a trade-off between short-term mating strategies and long-term ones. Most people refuse to acknowledge this reality, but delusion does not change reality.

I'm not saying that short-term mating is necessary bad. Perhaps it's time that marriage dies. However, the trade-off is very real, and pretending that it does not exist is foolish regardless of what your goals in life are. There are emotional needs of both genders, and these needs have obvious and deep evolutionary roots. Women who sleep around with other men, regardless of how "committed" a relationship they were in, do not satisfy the emotional needs of prospective husbands just like men who won't financially commit or who are homeless and jobless bums do not meet the emotional needs of prospective wives.

Put simply, there are no quality men out there because there are no quality women. Men behave exactly on the criteria women use to judge them. Women seeking short-term sexual relations incentivize men to only do the same. The power of women to influence male behavior was demonstrated when women stopped war by withholding sex or to topple a dictator, both beautiful examples of a good use of power. However, when women use this power to engage in short-term mating, they disincentivize any productive and responsible male behavior while encouraging men to do whatever it takes to be the subject of short-term affairs and one-night stands. This is why men live with their parents, play XBox, and party while shunning all the hard work it takes to build a career and a family. You reap what you sow.

3   Dan8267   2016 Oct 21, 8:19am  

Sex strikes work, and this has been known since ancient times as evident in the play Lysistrata, 441 BCE.

4   zzyzzx   2016 Oct 21, 8:20am  

Patrick, can you find a graph with information newer than 1990?

5   justme   2016 Oct 21, 8:20am  

The chart simply illustrates that about 50% of today's women are unwilling to committ while they still themselves have anything worth committing to. Anyone remember the 1990s, when one of the most repeated phrases of women was that "men are afraid of commitment". Even very young women used to say this. Have you heard this phrase lately? No? I know why. Men have wisened up, and if anyone uses that phrase again it will be thrown right back in their face. What the phrase really means was "Women are afraid of commitment, but will conveniently turn it around and blame men for it".

The above also illustrates the following general principle: If women as a group often make the statement A, there is a remarkably high probability that the truth really is one of the following:

not(A)
rotate(A,90deg)
reciprocal(A)

I'm sure the engineers in the crowd can decode that notation.

6   mell   2016 Oct 21, 8:26am  

justme says

when one of the most repeated phrases of women was that "men are afraid of commitment". Even very young women used to say this. Have you heard this phrase lately?

They still say that every time after zeroing in on a top 10% high status male with good looks.

7   Dan8267   2016 Oct 21, 8:27am  

zzyzzx is deplorable says

Patrick, can you find a graph with information newer than 1990?

The graph is up-to-date. The 1990 key refers to the birth year of the women for that line. Women born in 1990 are now about 26 years old.

8   justme   2016 Oct 21, 8:28am  

zzyzzx is deplorable says

Patrick, can you find a graph with information newer than 1990?

Keep in mind that 1990 means birth year 1990, so they cover women currently age 25-26 and up. Should be good enough.

9   justme   2016 Oct 21, 8:31am  

mell says

They still say that every time after zeroing in on a top 10% high status male with good looks.

Lucky you, Mell :). Just halfway joking :)

But joking aside, yes, I knew that. Women used to say that mostly to the 90% of men they would not make a sexual commitment to without endless labor and courtship.

10   Dan8267   2016 Oct 21, 8:33am  

Ironman says

Hilarious, a guy who has never had a long term relationship

Once again, you demonstrate that you don't know shit about my life. Just because you are jealous and obsessed with me does not mean you know anything about me or what I've done in life.

Furthermore, every statement I've made in this thread is confirmed by a multitude of scientific evidence, which you would know if you read any literature on evolutionary psychology or human sexual behavior. The field is mature and well published. Once again, your ignorance is surpassed only by your obvious jealousy. Yes, I'm smarter than you, wealthier than you, more attractive than you, have a bigger penis than you, and have a happier life than you. But it's not my fault that you are a loser. That's on you. Grow up and stop being a troll and maybe some day you'll make a friend.

11   justme   2016 Oct 21, 8:36am  

Patrick, I also noticed that "You like this (1)" first showed up as "Like (1)". I had to click/reclick again to get "You like this (1)" properly.

12   zzyzzx   2016 Oct 21, 8:39am  

Dan8267 says

The 1990 key refers to the birth year of the women for that line.

I would have never known that from looking at the graph, but Thanks for the clarification.

13   Dan8267   2016 Oct 21, 8:47am  

CIC's girlfriend

14   Dan8267   2016 Oct 21, 8:51am  

It's amazing how jealous piggy is of all the single men because we can get laid with beautiful women whereas he's stuck with a fat, ugly wife who cheats on him, and if he divorces, she'll take him to the cleaners. I mean, where will CIC live when she gets the cardboard box? And how will CIC make it on only half of his income from the NJ turnpike restroom glory holes he mans? Half a nickle is only two cents and a hay penny.

15   Dan8267   2016 Oct 21, 8:52am  

Well, I guess CIC is jerking off after successfully derailing another productive conversation by getting everyone to state, once again, how much of a loser he is. It's pretty sad that this is the highlight of his month.

16   justme   2016 Oct 21, 8:53am  

Dan, stop ruining this thread with your goat-fucking-feud with Ironman. Jeez. This is a good thread. Don't ruin it. You know I like you, but stop being such a dweeb about Ironman. Just ignore him, for Pete's sake.

Addendum: It would help if you removed the stupid images. I don't want a goats ass in my face while trying to read up on a serious topic.

17   FNWGMOBDVZXDNW   2016 Oct 21, 9:10am  

zzyzzx is deplorable says

I would have never known that from looking at the graph, but Thanks for the clarification.

It wasn't in the key, but you might have figured it out be seeing where the blue lines end and the grey prediction zone begins for 1980 and 1990. That's how the rest of us figured it out :).

It's clear that less are getting married. There are two things going on. One is a delay in getting married, and this is due to many things. The other is that the asymptotic line is getting higher (larger percentage never marry). The story has not finished for the 1980 & 1990 cohorts, so we don't know how it will end. Part of the shift in asymtote might be by accident after years of putting off their future.

It's not clear if the overall trend of having less marriage is due to the unmarried option becoming more attractive or the married option getting less attractive. Online dating, acceptance of alternative lifestyles, and higher wealth makes being single more palatable these days than it would have in the past. Also, increased options for women in the workplace has made marriage less of a necessity for women. The thesis popular here is that it is caused by feminism setting up unrealistic expectations in women and a breakdown in trust among men due to a terrible deal for men in divorce court (again caused by feminism). I think it's more complicated than that.

18   marcus   2016 Oct 21, 9:58am  

YesYNot All Pussy are Rigged says

I think it's more complicated than that.

I agree. But the legal part is a key factor even when considering the other reasons, which is the reason that some people emphasize it. For example, if as you say marriage is these days less of a necessity for women, then the often favorable financial dynamics (for women) of ending a marriage combine with this fact to make some marriages more fragile than they otherwise would be.

19   FNWGMOBDVZXDNW   2016 Oct 21, 10:17am  

marcus says

then the often favorable financial dynamics (for women) of ending a marriage combine with this fact to make some marriages more fragile than they otherwise would be.

This is true.

Another reason I forgot to mention about less people getting married is that it is much preferable financially to stay single, but cohabitate. If people make good money, they save on taxes. If they are poor, they qualify for more programs / incentives. The benefits of being married kick in when you are older and looking for health insurance and other benefits, like survivor social security. If my wife were less sentimental, we might not be officially married.

20   missing   2016 Oct 21, 11:09am  

Haha, the extrapolations of the 1980 and 1990 curves are overly optimistic for marriage - why the kinks?

21   missing   2016 Oct 21, 11:11am  

Half of my cousins in Europe have partners and children, but are not married. It's very common.

22   Ceffer   2016 Oct 21, 11:18am  

Masturbation is cheaper than divorce.

23   FNWGMOBDVZXDNW   2016 Oct 21, 12:02pm  

When I looked at the plot, I questioned the kinks in the predicted data, because none of the plotted data (1970 cohort and earlier) shows the kinks. I'm betting that the reason that they are predicting it is that they have plotted the data for the 1971-1979 cohort (not shown) through more years, and that they see a kink at 35. It does look weird though that they predict a kink the very moment that the data stops.

24   finehoe   2016 Oct 21, 12:18pm  

Obviously it's the gays that are destroying marriage.

25   missing   2016 Oct 21, 12:58pm  

I get what she means by old fashioned, that's why I added the ":)".

But still, does every 26yo single woman must have been on the carousel?

26   Y   2016 Oct 21, 1:05pm  

How so? Is it just you?

justme says

Have you heard this phrase lately? No? I know why.

27   Dan8267   2016 Oct 21, 1:19pm  

FP says

I get what she means by old fashioned, that's why I added the ":)".

Wrong emicon. You should have used winky. ;)

28   missing   2016 Oct 21, 1:21pm  

Dan8267 says

FP says

I get what she means by old fashioned, that's why I added the ":)".

Wrong emicon. You should have used winky. ;)

Yeah, you are right.

29   anonymous   2016 Oct 21, 1:22pm  

"If you have a good sense of humor"

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Sorry for loss, Dan. Lol

31   NDrLoR   2016 Oct 21, 3:49pm  

YesYNot All Pussy are Rigged says

it is much preferable financially to stay single, but cohabitate

I've watched People's Court for 34 years and Judge Judy since 1996 or so--you see the same scenarios over and over to exhaustion. Just the other day, a lady, probably in her mid 40's was suing the man, about the same age, for money she had loaned him during their five year--are you ready for it--on again, off again relationship. He had lived in her house which was exclusively in her name, but had contributed a lot to the house during the years and didn't feel he owed her anything and by the way he'd bought her a salad sometime in the past. He was flabbergasted when Judy explained to him that when people play house and choose not to get married, courts aren't set up to divvy out who bought this or that (she used the example of the salad) as they would if he had been willing to make the commitment to marry and thus enjoy the benefits of the community property laws. He probably owns nothing at this stage of his life and was convinced he was getting the best end of the deal because he could cut and run at the least provocation. After Judy banged the gavel I could see him look around to someone with this can you believe what just happened expression on his face.

32   missing   2016 Oct 21, 3:56pm  

P N Dr Lo R says

I could see him look around to someone with this can you believe what just happened expression on his face.

so it's on again

33   Strategist   2016 Oct 21, 4:18pm  

Patrick says

Marriage rates have been declining for decades

Marriage is just a piece of paper. It's the commitment that counts.

34   FortWayne   2016 Oct 21, 4:53pm  

Moral failure on a massive scale, we are becoming a nation of sinners. The judgement day on all of us will be brutal and well earned.

We need God today more than ever

35   missing   2016 Oct 21, 5:01pm  

FortWayne says

We need God today more than ever

Where did God go??

36   FortWayne   2016 Oct 21, 5:04pm  

He didn't go anywhere, we as a nation walked away from Christs teachings. It's all our fault.

FP says

FortWayne says

We need God today more than ever

Where did God go??

37   Rew   2016 Oct 21, 5:11pm  

FortWayne says

Moral failure on a massive scale, we are becoming a nation of sinners. The judgement day on all of us will be brutal and well earned.

But God loves all his creations, especially man. Children raised in a an ever increasing less Christian society do not know the sins they commit. This absolves an ever increasing segment of the population from that brutal judgement. The brutal judgment will be reserved for those who knew better, sinned themselves, and failed to devote their life to God and converting others to the proper ways.

https://500questions.wordpress.com/2012/03/09/28-if-someone-never-hears-the-gospel-can-they-still-go-to-heaven/

It's open to interpretation. The Bible has said lots of conflicting things ... just like Trump. ;)

38   Rew   2016 Oct 21, 5:11pm  

FortWayne says

He didn't go anywhere, we as a nation walked away from Christs teachings. It's all our fault.

And the less we know, they more we are protected. Rejoice!

39   FortWayne   2016 Oct 21, 5:13pm  

The hell we are building on earth isn't punishment enough for your kind? What's good about living in chaos, poverty, immoral hell? And forgiveness isn't automatic, none of us have it.

Rew says

FortWayne says

Moral failure on a massive scale, we are becoming a nation of sinners. The judgement day on all of us will be brutal and well earned.

But God loves all his creations, especially man. Children raised in a an ever increasing less Christian society do not know the sins they commit. This absolves an ever increasing segment of the population from that brutal judgement. The brutal judgment will be reserved for those who knew better, sinned themselves, and failed to devote their life to God and converting others to the proper ways.

https://500questions.wordpress.com/2012/03/09/28-if-someone-never-hears-the-gospel-can-they-still-go-to-heaven/

It's open to interpretation. The Bible has said lots of conflicting things ... just like Trump. ;)

40   Strategist   2016 Oct 21, 5:29pm  

FortWayne says

What's good about living in chaos,

Chaos mostly caused by God. Look at the Islamic world.

FortWayne says

poverty

It's God's fault. He did not provide.

FortWayne says

immoral hell

Which God decides what is immoral?

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